I have to say, that as grateful I am for my husband, I despise his family. Mainly because they are manipulative, hateful, self-serving, judgemental and not at all trustworthy. They create problems, and lie about them constantly. (Oh *I* never said THAT!!!) Umm..yeah, and other people heard it too B**ch.
I'm sure some of you who happen to read this have no clue what in law problems are like and for that you are very blessed.
All in all, I have basically cut out my brother in law, and his skank wife out of my life. If my husband wants to talk to them, fine, he's a grown up. They are alcoholics who use people for whatever they can get. If they don't have money for all of their bills, or even food, they will buy beer, regardless. In fact, during one visit, the Skank says "It's sad how we don't have money for bills or whatever, but when it comes to beer, I don't care, and we buy it anyway". OH, and another time BIL was visiting because she took off to another state, and his vehicle broke down. He begged her to come and get him as it was on her way back home and she was like "Well, I haven't gone shopping with (unimportant name here) yet, and she is depending on me so NO I will not come and get you"....OH this is also the same visit where she also spent all of the money on beer for her trouble making brother where her husband couldn't even afford to get HIS vehicle fixed up like they agreed on. He was like "WHAT happened to the money that was in the account?!?!?!?!" So, again, we wound up out of pocket (this was not the first time we've bailed them out....) because they didn't have any money, and my husband is a sucker and a half. (Yes, that is S-A-R-C-A-S-M. Do I believe my husband is a sucker? Noooo...)
I used to try to get along with his family, for him. Had them in my home, they treated me like shit, in front of him. He didn't care about my feelings, of course, even when I was pregnant. I was very very angry about it, but I understand that he grew up with that behavior and it was all he knew and expected from his family. It was all about his family, and NOT his wife and children. Anyway.... I'm not going into whatever diatribe of the things I did to try to feel like a part of my husbands family, but I won't be doing it anymore. Of course, this is the same "family" that didn't do a damn thing for him while he was deployed the first time, and that didn't do a damn thing for his family except try to cause problems between him and his wife. That in itself is a pretty long story.
Anyway, all in all....had I known the full truth of his family, I would have never married him.
As much as I love him....which is quite a lot. ;)
3 comments:
Wow, maybe you should name it Bitter About Life. You sound pretty harsh, my friend.
LOL Yes, you are probably right. Lately, I have been quite bitter about life. Harsh? Not really, just honest about my feelings, even when I don't fully understand them. However, until you live someones life, don't judge them.
P.S...If you were really a friend, you would have left your name instead of hiding behind anonymity.. ;)
Aw mama! I'm sorry they are such morons! You have every right to be angry about this. You've crossed the bridge one too many times with them and have learned your lesson. There's no need to cross it again if they are never going to change. Why waste your time? Maybe some day you can disappear... or they will disappear.
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